How to protect your child from the influence of the street: tips for parents
In each family there comes a time when the child proudly declares to the parents: "I went for a walk. I will be late". Most often, the desire to spend a lot of time with peers occurs in children in adolescence.
Psychologists consider this to be absolutely normal, because during this period the child learns the world, tries to decide what he likes, tries to make friends. But when the child goes for a walk with friends, the parents start to worry, because they do not know for sure who their child is talking to, what is he doing during the walk?
Therefore, many parents want in any way to protect their child from the negative impact of the street. How to do this, let's find out together.
How to behave your parents?
Some parents, in order to protect the child from the negative influence of the street, try in every possible way to isolate the child from communication with peers, they lock the child at home, blackmail him with walks.Psychologists argue that this approach to solving the problem is fundamentally wrong, because a child should communicate with peers, otherwise he will notgrow socially adapted person.
Also, from such an attitude of parents, a child may become depressed, become withdrawn, go into the virtual world in search of understanding and tranquility.
There are parents who prefer to scold the child for the fact that he pays too much attention to communicating with friends, they arrange scandals for the child every day, they can even resort to physical violence with a naughty teenager.
Such a reaction of parents to the behavior of the child just will not bring anything good. After a quarrel, the child will be convinced that you do not like him and do not understand, he will become angry and reticent, and will disappear even more on walks with friends.
What is the right way to protect a teenager from the influence of the street?
Psychologists say that the main thing is the parents' increased attention to their child. Every parent should remember that the teenager needs attention very much, so you just need to be interested in the affairs of the child at school, on a personal front, and how his relationships with friends develop.
Show your teenager that he can trust you, for this, trust your child yourself and consult with him on important issues of your life. He is already very mature! He will understand you for sure.
So that your family does not have conflicts because of evening walks, so that your child clearly distinguishes good from evil, has an inner core that would not allow him to contact a bad company, try to become an example of his best friend and comrade.
To achieve this goal, psychologists give several tips to parents:
1.You need to create such an environment at home that the child was constantly busy with something. His day should be organized so that after school, he did not have time for an empty reel in the streets with friends, so that even in the evening hours he could not afford to walk with friends for more than 2 hours.
Make it easy enough! It is necessary to interest the child with something, let him attend different sections every day, courses, let him have permanent duties at home.
If your child knows that he has English after school today, tomorrow there will be a swimming pool, and the day after tomorrow - cleaning in his room,going to the grandparents, he doesn’t even have an idea that after school you can spend all your free time with friends and laze around.
2.Try to communicate more with the child. Talk to him as an equal, remember that he has already grown, he already has an opinion, he can support almost any topic. Be interested in the affairs of the child, ask who he communicates with, suggest inviting his friends to your house for some holiday. Say that you are allowed to have a party when you and your dad are visiting or in the country. After such a trust, the child will alwaysperceive you as a friend.
3.Try to love the child as he is. Do not make demands to him, do not tell him that you want him to become such and such, do not make plans for his life. He will explain to him that you are not responsible for everything that happens to him, this is his life, he is responsible for everything. Tell him about your teenage period, how you communicated with your friends, what interests you had, be sincere, think about what you regret, tell everything honestly, then you can hope that the child will also be with sincere to you